Today is the tenth anniversary of my identical twin sister's death.

For those of you who didn't know Caterina del Cavallo, founder of our shire and grande dame of SCA-upstate NY, she was a memorable lady indeed. ("I'm a lady, and I have a piece of paper to prove it!" was one of her favorite quotes.) Acid-tongued, witty, and brilliant, she spared herself as little as she spared anyone else.

I miss her. She inspired me to make my life better by taking on more challenges. I wouldn't be where I am today if she hadn't pushed, encouraged, and mocked.

And I don't need sympathy, although I want to thank those of you who are ready to offer it. I got through the depths of depression a few years back. Instead, I'd like to propose this: Whether or not you knew my sister, if you could raise a glass of whatever in her memory this day, it would be appreciated.

Thanks.